If you're reading this article, it is a fair assumption that your husband wants a divorce, and you do not. Here's what you can do about it.
summarized the simplest reason someone wants to divorce is that the person simply is not happy when they are about their spouses. There May have been involved infidelity, or other issues, but that's what marriage problems usually come up. Regardless of the issues, the simple fact is that if your husband enjoys your presence, there would be no divorce.
then the solution becomes very obvious: to change things, so they are happy when you're around
.to act on this solution, you need to understand the single most important thing that men want from their wives (or girlfriends, or whatever) - respect (and admiration). Because women just want to be appreciated and loved, men want to be admired. No matter what you say, that the truth about it - it's hardwired into us
.If you are constantly 'nagging' at him, what he heard in his mind that he was not good enough - and he will become poor over time. He hears the same thing when you try to change it, belittle it, or most other negative behaviors.
If you want to keep your spouse, you must change the way we treat it. Instead of nagging at him, give praise and be thankful for what he does well.
It's that simple. No real mystery here, no need to travel in remote jungle and buy a love potion from a witch-doctor, you do not need any voodoo or advice (although it would almost certainly help), just have a look at human nature - and what drives the man, and act on it
.Knock out negative behaviors, do not forget, it takes two to fight, and if you just start looking at what he does right, you're going to do much better.
a quick tip on this - the first thing to do is stop arguing. No matter how wrong it, it's still a little bit right - for him to confirm what he is right, and I agree with other things. He can not fight with someone who does not fight back - and eventually, he will actually begin the defense of your view
!Basically what I want to do is focus on the good things and learn to ignore the bad - or at least you can learn how to negotiate with him, and at times bad things will not be so bad, and good things will be much better.
Basically what I want to do is focus on the good things and learn to ignore the bad - or at least you can learn how to negotiate with him, and at times bad things will not be so bad, and good things will be much better.
...I know a lot of that goes to how people think relationships should work, but again, you have to look at basic human nature - and the basic nature of men - and revise what you think you know
Act on this advice, and stick with them, and you'll be able to save your marriage and keep your husband happy.
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